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Covid-19, Panic and Tolerance

Covid-19, Panic and Tolerance

It has been a while since I posted a blog so, and as with most of us, I currently have the time to do so given the virus “crisis” that is affecting the world and the “stay home” orders that have been issued.  I have learned something valuable...
The Types or “Styles” of Mediation

The Types or “Styles” of Mediation

There are principally three types or “styles” of mediation and it is important when retaining a mediator to know which style of mediation he or she practices because one style may be better suited to a given fact pattern then another style.  The three styles of...
“Win-Win” in Negotiation and Mediation

“Win-Win” in Negotiation and Mediation

The phrase “win-win” is now a part of American parlance.  Most people have a good idea of what the phrase means in that it has to do with both parties in a negotiation or exchange of some kind leaving that completed exchange better off.  In that regard, it...
Apology, Forgiveness and Resolving Disputes

Apology, Forgiveness and Resolving Disputes

Dispute resolution often involves one party “apologizing” and another “forgiving.”  These terms are often misused and/or misunderstood.   This prominent UCLA psychiatrist offers what I believe to be a fairly good overview of what the varying...
What is Arbitration?

What is Arbitration?

Arbitration is a less formal process than going to court to resolve disputes.  It involves, usually, one person hired to act as a sort of “private” judge who listens to the evidence of the parties and issues a binding ruling which can later be enforced by...
Emotions and Mediation

Emotions and Mediation

As human beings, we all have emotions. Emotions are what make us alive and what allow us to appreciate our very existence. Emotions are good things provided they do not overtake our reason.  With emotions, like with most everything in life, moderation is the key. ...
Bluffing Your Way to Nowhere

Bluffing Your Way to Nowhere

Many people think that forcing the other side to make the initial offer in a negotiation is the trick to being a successful negotiator.  The logic to this approach to negotiation is that by forcing the other side to make the initial offer, the offeree will learn what...